The Age of Hawk Tuah
Your Sex Life is Supposed to be Private
This Substack post is aimed at young people today to hopefully get them to pause for a few minutes and really consider the long-term consequences of certain behaviors and how you choose to live.
A new trend has emerged in the online world where people will interview random people on the street and ask them very graphic and very private questions. The people being interviewed are usually in some state of inebriation, which causes inhibitions to be lowered or completely gone. As a result, the interviews can be quite blunt, outrageous and often degenerate. The young people being interviewed freely share wildly personal information to complete strangers who they know will be posting this on the internet for the entire world to consume.
Recently a young woman has become internet famous over a viral video of her. In this video, she is being interviewed and is obviously intoxicated. She is asked a wildly inappropriate question about her sex life and she proceeds to give details to the entire world. I won’t go any further into detail, except to say that this viral clip caused her to be known as the “hawk tuah” girl.
Now from here she has had the opportunity to reflect on this and turn away from it. Sadly she has embraced this fifteen minutes of fame and continues to embarrass herself and her family. Rather than apologizing to her family, she is now selling merchandise and making appearances to capitalize on this new internet fame. She is embracing the vulgarity, crassness and lack of class. She is embracing the sin.
And to be clear, this is sin. Sex is supposed to be private, intimate and only in the bonds of marriage. She is doing none of that. She is also causing large amounts of scandal and encouraging others to behave as she is. It’s truly sad.
What I wish to stress to young people today is to consider the long-term consequences for such behavior. In the case of this young woman, she will make a bit of money from this behavior. But what happens long-term?
Will decent men be interested in dating her? - No, they won’t. Good men don’t want to have a girlfriend that has behaved like this publicly. And they CERTAINLY don’t want a wife that has behaved like this. They also don’t want the mother of their children to have behaved like this.
What will happen to her children? - Her kids are going to have to endure middle school and high school with the taunts and bullying from other kids because their mom is the “hawk tuah” woman. They are going to be mortified that their mother has paraded herself to the entire world as a woman of low morals and zero class.
What happens to her? - Her family will be embarrassed each time someone brings up this entire event. And the internet will live forever. This fifteen minutes of fame will haunt her the entirety of her life. Just ask Monica Lewinsky how it feels to be known for something like this.
So to all the parents and young people who might be reading this, let me help you to think through this type of behavior. If you haven’t done something like this, make sure you do not leave yourself open to doing so. If you have done something like this, go to Confession and then turn away forever such behavior.
Young people, you have been raised as feral children. You have not been raised in a godly culture, but instead have been left to you own devices in a hedonistic and pagan culture that encourages sexual degeneracy and evil. So let’s walk together and discuss how you should behave instead. Here is some of the basics for how you should think about sex and behaving in public.
SEX SHOULD REMAIN PRIVATE
Sex is a private and intimate act between two people who have made lifelong vows to God to be married to each other and to keep that relationship undefiled. Your sex life is not for others to know about. It is a violation of your marriage and your marriage vows to disclose your private sex life to others. The only exceptions to this are those who have a legitimate right to know. This includes your doctor up to the basic facts they need to correctly diagnose and treat you. It can also include a counselor (or one extremely close friend) who is helping to fix issues in your marriage and can include your priest if you need to confess any sinful actions. Otherwise your sex life is to remain private.
You should NOT be discussing your spouse, their body, your sex life and other intimate facts with anyone else. It would be wildly sinful to invite others into your bedroom to watch you and your spouse, so why do you think it is okay to tell them about it after the fact?
A marriage is a covenant between a husband and spouse. It is inviolate and should be private. This is why even the law protects husbands and wives from testifying against each other.
STOP ALLOWING OTHERS TO INTRUDE INTO YOUR SEX LIFE
Young people, you should harshly rebuff anyone who dares to ask you about your private behavior. In days past, if a person dared to ask a lady about her sex life, that person would be slapped across the face. This is the appropriate response to someone who dares to ask you such intrusive and disrespectful questions. And it is highly disrespectful for them to even ask.
Learn to respect yourself and stop allowing others into your personal life, especially your sex life. Young men should be ready and willing to roughly treat someone who dares to attempt to learn about their private sex life. It is NOT normal to allow others to ask you about this. It is NOT normal to allow others to intrude into your life, especially strangers.
STOP BROADCASTING YOUR PRIVATE LIFE TO EVERYONE
I know this one is going to shock young people today, and many old ones as well. But it needs to be said. Stop broadcasting your private life to everyone on the internet. Have some self control and self respect. Posting pictures and videos for only your family and friends is fine. But keep them on private settings. Do NOT allow them to be shared. Strangers don’t need to know about you. Strangers should NOT be allowed into your private life.
This is entirely counter-cultural to our modern digital age, but you need to hear it. Keep you private life exactly that, PRIVATE!