I’m a woman and he’s 100% correct. The worst kind of friends women can have are other women with this much contempt for their husbands. They’re toxic, they’re selfish, and they want everyone to be as miserable as them. There’s a reason the phrase “divorce is contagious” exists.
They have a laundry list of economic, household, parenting, and emotional demands for their husbands, buy can’t be bothered to even be generally kind in return. I used to be like this, for the first ten years of my marriage. Thankfully I got redpilled and the last twelve have been nothing short of amazing, after a lot of apologizing to my husband.
I’ve been on both sides. This one is better, but you have to get past your ego and all the cultural BS out there and decide what’s more important: what your husband thinks of you or what other people think of you.
I love this, and agree 100%! Sex isn’t the be-all and end-all, but it’s a big part of a loving marital relationship. And I simply do not understand women who discuss their sex lives in public. I no more wish to hear their bedroom secrets than I want to listen to a description of their latest bowel movement, and that’s before you even factor in the disrespect it shows towards their husband. What happened to modesty? I truly do not understand how sex has become so commodified and degraded, and how some women wield it as a weapon against their husband, or treat it as something to be endured in order to obtain something they want.
This is so sad. I lost my wonderful husband last August to Alzheimer's. I treasured every intimate moment we had together. He loved and respected me and I loved and respected him, as I always will. These women are toxic and I would not want to be around them.
That’s a broad sweep. Some women are subjected to abortions. Some see their husbands mistreat the children. Some husbands are fools, so proud and stiff-necked they have eyes, yet see not, and ears, yet hear not. These assaults can cause irreparable damage to the sex drive. Just remaining in the marriage is an act of sacrificial love.
Don't do that. Don't try to give justifications for bad behavior or try to point the finger of blame at men. I spend plenty of time upbraiding men and their lack of good behavior. Women are able to be held accountable for their bad behavior without trying to deflect or blame others for that bad behavior.
but describing their relationships as "friends with benefits" is kinda the opposite of what the writer's point is. "Friends with benefits" implies a man and woman who are actual, real friends, but who also have the benefit of enjoying sex with each other. The women in this article are neither "friends" nor are their husbands reaping any "benefits". The women should be called " rude roommates who eat all your food and never have their half of the rent, but who still makes you watch "Real Houswives of Blah Blah Blah". Legitimate husbands and wives are absolutely friends with benefits.
Summing up, love = sex. If a man brings home a paycheck he’s entitled to it because, well, he WORKS.
The ladies your wife walks are very unhappy. I suspect they feel as unloved as much as their husbands do. All the same they shouldn’t have aired their marital garbage like that. However YOU are in no position to judge them. Your don’t know what life is like within the walls of their homes. And shame on your wife for sharing such personal information about people you both know. .
Not angry. Just surprised that you seem to feel that wives should serve as prostitutes for their paying husbands. In marriage there are expectations on both sides.
Let me ask you, do you think the ladies meant for the information to be *public*? Or was this a conversation that was understood among friends to be confidential? If one of the women in the group shares how heartbroken she is to learn her daughter just had an abortion, is that now *public* information deemed okay to broadcast? What if was YOUR daughter?
What do you think God would’ve wanted your wife to do? How does He want you to behave? Would He be okay with the two of you sharing that gossip?
It’s okay. We all fall short, including (especially) me.
The fact that you think I feel that wives should serve as prostitutes shows that you have a real issue in your own soul that needs to be addressed. The fact that you think affection and sex being obligations of both spouses in marriage makes them prostitutes shows you have a real issue with the concept of obligation. It's common though in our degenerate culture to be shocked and appalled that wives should have obligations in their marriage. (Funny how no one has an issue with husbands having obligations in their marriage...)
And your accusation that I spread private information is a false attack as well. The information was sufficiently vague, sufficiently unspecific and not a single person was named. So there is no person who can claim their private info was posted.
I forgive you for both of your false attacks on me. But I still encourage you to go to Confession soon.
I stand by what I said. Husbands dont just get to bring home a paycheck and expect affection and sex - essentially treating their wives as prostitutes. That's pretty much the way your rage filled diatribe read.
Wives also expect kindness, love, respect, friendship and help. When they don't get that and are expected to deliver in the bedroom, well they really would rather just not. You don't know how those women are treated by their husbands and I simply don't understand how you, with so little information, third hand gossip at that, can be so furiously judgemental. Those marriages need HELP not your hate. Do better.
I’m a woman and he’s 100% correct. The worst kind of friends women can have are other women with this much contempt for their husbands. They’re toxic, they’re selfish, and they want everyone to be as miserable as them. There’s a reason the phrase “divorce is contagious” exists.
They have a laundry list of economic, household, parenting, and emotional demands for their husbands, buy can’t be bothered to even be generally kind in return. I used to be like this, for the first ten years of my marriage. Thankfully I got redpilled and the last twelve have been nothing short of amazing, after a lot of apologizing to my husband.
I’ve been on both sides. This one is better, but you have to get past your ego and all the cultural BS out there and decide what’s more important: what your husband thinks of you or what other people think of you.
I love this, and agree 100%! Sex isn’t the be-all and end-all, but it’s a big part of a loving marital relationship. And I simply do not understand women who discuss their sex lives in public. I no more wish to hear their bedroom secrets than I want to listen to a description of their latest bowel movement, and that’s before you even factor in the disrespect it shows towards their husband. What happened to modesty? I truly do not understand how sex has become so commodified and degraded, and how some women wield it as a weapon against their husband, or treat it as something to be endured in order to obtain something they want.
Do not withhold yourselves from one another . . .
This dangerous attitude can lead to porn addiction, adultery and worse!
This is so sad. I lost my wonderful husband last August to Alzheimer's. I treasured every intimate moment we had together. He loved and respected me and I loved and respected him, as I always will. These women are toxic and I would not want to be around them.
That’s a broad sweep. Some women are subjected to abortions. Some see their husbands mistreat the children. Some husbands are fools, so proud and stiff-necked they have eyes, yet see not, and ears, yet hear not. These assaults can cause irreparable damage to the sex drive. Just remaining in the marriage is an act of sacrificial love.
Don't do that. Don't try to give justifications for bad behavior or try to point the finger of blame at men. I spend plenty of time upbraiding men and their lack of good behavior. Women are able to be held accountable for their bad behavior without trying to deflect or blame others for that bad behavior.
👍👍. Thanks.
It's a good article with a valid point,
but describing their relationships as "friends with benefits" is kinda the opposite of what the writer's point is. "Friends with benefits" implies a man and woman who are actual, real friends, but who also have the benefit of enjoying sex with each other. The women in this article are neither "friends" nor are their husbands reaping any "benefits". The women should be called " rude roommates who eat all your food and never have their half of the rent, but who still makes you watch "Real Houswives of Blah Blah Blah". Legitimate husbands and wives are absolutely friends with benefits.
From a man's point of view. Lol
Yes, it is. It's very telling that you have an issue with a man's opinion.
Summing up, love = sex. If a man brings home a paycheck he’s entitled to it because, well, he WORKS.
The ladies your wife walks are very unhappy. I suspect they feel as unloved as much as their husbands do. All the same they shouldn’t have aired their marital garbage like that. However YOU are in no position to judge them. Your don’t know what life is like within the walls of their homes. And shame on your wife for sharing such personal information about people you both know. .
So my wife should keep non-secrets from me? That's weird.
These women openly shared this information to the entire group. They are the ones who made it public.
You seem angry that there should be expectations for wives in a marriage.
Not angry. Just surprised that you seem to feel that wives should serve as prostitutes for their paying husbands. In marriage there are expectations on both sides.
Let me ask you, do you think the ladies meant for the information to be *public*? Or was this a conversation that was understood among friends to be confidential? If one of the women in the group shares how heartbroken she is to learn her daughter just had an abortion, is that now *public* information deemed okay to broadcast? What if was YOUR daughter?
What do you think God would’ve wanted your wife to do? How does He want you to behave? Would He be okay with the two of you sharing that gossip?
It’s okay. We all fall short, including (especially) me.
Let’s do better.
The fact that you think I feel that wives should serve as prostitutes shows that you have a real issue in your own soul that needs to be addressed. The fact that you think affection and sex being obligations of both spouses in marriage makes them prostitutes shows you have a real issue with the concept of obligation. It's common though in our degenerate culture to be shocked and appalled that wives should have obligations in their marriage. (Funny how no one has an issue with husbands having obligations in their marriage...)
And your accusation that I spread private information is a false attack as well. The information was sufficiently vague, sufficiently unspecific and not a single person was named. So there is no person who can claim their private info was posted.
I forgive you for both of your false attacks on me. But I still encourage you to go to Confession soon.
I stand by what I said. Husbands dont just get to bring home a paycheck and expect affection and sex - essentially treating their wives as prostitutes. That's pretty much the way your rage filled diatribe read.
Wives also expect kindness, love, respect, friendship and help. When they don't get that and are expected to deliver in the bedroom, well they really would rather just not. You don't know how those women are treated by their husbands and I simply don't understand how you, with so little information, third hand gossip at that, can be so furiously judgemental. Those marriages need HELP not your hate. Do better.
Your slander towards me is vile. Go to confession and bother someone else.